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letting go of selling myself March 10, 2010

Filed under: epiphanies — tangent @ 9:05 am

Yesterday I did some great work with my friend Tahnee about letting go of our old ideas about what selling means. We both have our own business doing what we love, though she has been doing this for far longer than I have.

We explored what feelings come up when we think of selling, and what there is to be healed and then had more space to see the opportunity of selling and really shifted our relationship to it!

I found that i related it to the aggressive and manipulative American sales approach as well as prostitution. Much of my ill will also came from equating this with our societies rampant consumerism as a way to feed the hunger of the human heart. I have so much anger and despair about this. And it gets in the way of being comfortable selling my own ideas and services.

One of the things that also became clear was that in working for myself or any other work, I’m not selling myself. I am not Audacious Leadership as much as I am not my name. I am selling a vision of new paradigm leadership and a pathway toward it. This feels much better. I’m not selling my soul, I’m providing an opportunity for a new future! And it still feels a bit strange to sell that but I have much more willingness to give it a go having relased myself from the negative beliefs and collapsed ideas about what selling is. I can do it with integrity and forge new ways of doing business.

I’m also enjoying reading WOMBAT Selling by Dr Michael Hewitt-Gleeson, who turns the old style of selling on it’s head! Lots to learn on this journey through doing what I love and making a living at it!


Rain Storm March 6, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — tangent @ 9:51 pm

We’re so blessed to have been spared the damage this storm has done to Melbourne! We have friends who have been affected with damage to home, transport and event cancellations, disruption.

We decided to cancel our plans to make sure the house and pets were ok. We even played Wii as a distraction. Worked great for Dizzy, she didn’t even flinch for at least two of the thunder rolls.

Our pond has been topped up by mother nature, and she wasn’t so gentle in many other areas of Melbourne. We got hail just over 1cm but not the golf ball sized ones reported elsewhere.

Such a sudden and intense storm, not a long one thankfully!


Attention Density By David Rock and Jeffrey Schwartz February 16, 2010

Filed under: quote — tangent @ 5:47 pm

Attention Density: New Big Thing?

By David Rock and Jeffrey Schwartz

There is now an increasing amount of science behind the old adage that you are what you think about.  The fields of neuroscience and quantum physics have teamed up to reveal that it is possible to actually change the circuitry of the brain by focusing on something long enough, often enough, and hard enough.

Every leader knows that it is hard to effect long-term change in people and organizations.  That may be because change inflicts physiological pain, something most people try to avoid.  But if we can enable people to give sufficient quality and quantity of focus to something, the circuitry in the brain will be stabilized in a new pattern.

The mechanism that describes this is attention density, and it has profound implications for leaders, managers, trainers, coaches, parents, and politicians—in other words, anyone who wants to influence others.

Attention density is the quantity and quality of attention paid to a particular circuit in the brain.

When you think about something, a circuit is activated that crosses many centers in the brain.  One word or idea may trigger responses in visual, emotional, kinesthetic, auditory, or language centers, among others.  There is in your mind a map, or circuit, for every word, picture or concept for which you have any associations at all.

Attention density is the sum or product of the quality and quantity of focus.  (We say “or” because no studies have yet been done to verify whether this is multiplicative, but we sense it is, and we expect such studies will be undertaken before long.) Quality of focus is the number of other circuits that are activated in connection to the original circuit, as well as the amount of energy coursing through that circuit.  For example, there will be more energy in a circuit if you have an emotional reaction to the topic.

There is a Ladder of Intensity that an influencer may use to increase attention density.   Here’s an example: When I say, “Think of an elephant,” the flash of energy through “elephant circuits” in your mind may last a fraction of a second, involving a picture, a sound, a memory, or all three.

If I were to say “Tell me about elephants,” the circuit would be held much longer, requiring as it does that you summon information and pictures from your memory, put words to them, and phrase sentences to describe them.  You might speak about elephants for a minute, which is many times longer than the fraction of a second you might have spent just thinking about an elephant.   All the while you are speaking about the elephant, you are holding in place the ‘elephant circuit.’  (Unless you have a ‘senior moment’ and forget what you were talking about!)

If I were to say, “Write down how you feel when you see elephants,” more circuits would be involved, and the circuits would be held active even longer as you take the time to summon the information and pictures connecting to elephants, and now link it to your emotions, and to the effort it takes to write about Elephants.

In the case of writing about your emotions and elephants, you may have increased the amount of focus on elephants from a fraction of a second to many minutes, and that focus might be linked to many centers of your brain.  The quality of attention has gone up, as many more circuits were activated.  You have become “more elephant aware,” and will be more likely to link other ideas and experiences to elephants.

“The mental act of focusing attention holds in place brain circuits associated with what is focused on.” Dr. Jeffrey M Schwartz

This can be multiplied further because of the social nature of our brains.  If you go back to your office and talk to people about elephants, the same circuits will be activated each time you repeat the story.   On top of that, you may activate “the elephant circuits” as you and those same people have additional conversations, or even as you consider having conversations with those people.  So “elephant circuits” get reinforced, and move from “gravel back road” toward “paved highway.”

“Simple.” a leader may say, “All I have to do it repeat myself enough, hang enough posters, and we’re there.”   Not likely.

We are dealing with the human brain, which is not simple.  It is complex and sophisticated, and yet behaves like a two year old:

  • Tell it what to do and it pushes back.
  • Ask questions with a judgmental tone (“Why did you do that?”) and defenses go up.
  • Threaten or seem to threaten status, and the brain is focused on preservation, not on clear thinking.

Interestingly, safety and status are closer to the surface of our thinking than you might imagine.  The brain is quite able to calculate our relative status in a rather large group.  When that status is actually or potentially threatened, perhaps by being seen as being wrong, or by having problems solved for us that we were able to solve, then our fear circuits are activated.  Stress increases; dopamine levels drop; blood pressure and cortisol levels increase. Clear thinking is reduced.

So what is a leader to do if they want to get the message across?  We mentioned the Ladder of Intensity above, describing ways to increase attention density.  It is possible to direct attention to the topic desired, and to maintain a high attention density until circuits have some permanence.

A couple of key principles should help:

Maintain the quantity of focus. If something is important, make it known, and show it in every way possible.   Repetition is fine, providing it isn’t undermined by inaction, or worse, action that is inconsistent with the message.  All channels — one message.

Raise the quality of focus. Increase the number of circuits involved.  Get their brain circuits making connections at many levels.  Let them think about it, write about it, connect it to emotion, work with it.  Let them tell others about it.

Provide the “problem-solving rush.” Solving puzzles involves creating new circuits in the brain, which is generally highly energizing.  Facilitate an experience that allows people to make the connections themselves.  When they have seen the data, come to the conclusions, and decided on the actions, they will be more committed to those actions.  When they have solved the problem, and had the attending rush, they will be inclined positively toward the solutions.

Leadership authorities agree.

Peter Drucker said, “People tend to support that which they help to create.”

Aristotle said “What is expressed is impressed.”

There is power in focus. Where we choose to put our attention changes our brain, which in time can change how we see and interact with the world.

“Where we choose to put our attention changes our brain, which in time can change how we see and interact with the world.”

David Rock is the author of Quiet Leadership: Six Steps to Transforming Performance at Work (Collins, 2006) and Personal Best (Simon & Schuster, 2001) and the co-creator of the coaching curriculum at New York University’s School of Continuing and Professional Studies. He lives between Sydney Australia and Manhattan, and can be reached at davidrock@ workplacecoaching.com

Jeffrey Schwartz is a research psychiatrist at the School of Medicine at the University of California at Los Angeles. His books include The Mind and the Brain (with Sharon Begley, Regan Books, 2002) and the bestseller Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior (Regan Books, 1997).  Jeffrey is based in Los Angeles, and can be reached at jmschwar@ucla.edu.

For more information on the work of David Rock and Jeffrey Schwartz, or on the new discipline of Neuroleadership, check www.neuroleadership.org

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Eating from our Garden January 30, 2010

Filed under: ordinary — tangent @ 5:05 pm

I squeezed my own orange juice yesterday morning, not from our oranges, but from the Tangellos (mandarin-grapefruit cross) we got from Emma’s Grandma’s place near Mildura a few weeks ago. Lots of seeds but the taste was worth it!

I found a potato in the tub of spuds and we put it, sliced, on the BBQ with the fish and it was really tasty!

I’ve been eating a fair few nectarines and thinking about what to do with the rest of them as they start to ripen, you can pick soft ones from the tree now! We’re thinking stewed nectaries, maybe dehydrate some of them, freeze a few more. The fresh ones are much better cold, tho eating them fresh and hot is interesting.

The peaches didn’t fare so well, we got a few but it was a bit too hot as they were ripening and many of them cooked on the tree and had bugs in them. I am surprised that I’m enjoying the nectarines more than peaches and not from availability.

The apples are starting to get big and one fell in my bunny proofed section of garden under the orange tree and within a couple of days it was a tiny bird pecked core! No wonder the birds love our place so much, the feast on our fruit! I’d rather they left the strawberries more, i don’t mind sharing but we’ve only had a handful of the 20+ berries that have fruited.

I feel really blessed to have this food from my garden but it’s alot of work and it’s a bit tricky learning to deal with bugs and other nasties when you want to raise them naturally, no chemicals for me thanks! I’m learning what grows where and how to protect the plants from some of the things that want to eat them, and find nice surprises like a handful of rasperries, hiding under the leaves, not visible to birds! And the potato was a nice surprise too.

The joy of having food to eat in your own back yard is such a treat, despite the challenges, like empty rain water tanks, and its’ not even February! I used mains water for the first time this year. Praying for rain amid my gratitude for the long and sporadic harvest!

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Quote from MLK Jr on Love and Power January 19, 2010

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“One of the greatest problems of history is that the concepts of love and power are usually contrasted as polar opposites. Love is identified with a resignation of power and power with a denial of love. What is needed is a realization that power without love is reckless and abusive and that love without power is sentimental and anemic.”-Martin Luther King Jr.


Thoughtspeed: The Speed of Thought in Free Space January 18, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — tangent @ 9:25 pm

Thoughtspeed: The Speed of Thought in Free Space

by Owen Waters

Old ideas give way to new ones. Old barriers, sooner or later,

crumble and fade away.

One idea that is crumbling today is the idea that nothing in

the universe can go faster than lightspeed. This will be

replaced by a recognition that thought travels millions of

times faster than lightspeed – at the the speed of thought

in free space, or thoughtspeed.

In the early Star Trek series on television, the mission of

the Starship Enterprise was to explore the universe and boldly

go where no one has gone before. The Enterprise was able to

exceed light speed; quite considerably, it would seem, as it

was supposed to have traveled to the edge of the Milky Way

galaxy in just a few hours. The cruising speed actually

required for such a feat is millions of times lightspeed.

Science fiction is often a medium for possibility thinking.

The possibility of humans touring the galaxy and beyond seems

eminently reasonable. After all, human potential is, by design,

unlimited. There is no way in creation that the universe can be

just a set of pretty lights that we never get to explore!

Today, the shift towards recognizing thoughtspeed is just

beginning. Faster-than-light phenomena are being observed by

today’s physicists when they see the effects of subatomic

particles communicating with each other. When a subatomic

particle bumps into another one, they become ‘friends’ and

carry on communicating with each other. The fact that they then

become separated by millions of miles does not reduce their

willingness to communicate. When something happens to one

particle, it lets the other particle know about it and, in

pure empathy, it reacts in a like manner.

We know from the work of insightful pioneers like biologist

Rupert Sheldrake that telepathy works, but how fast does it

work? As thoughts are non-physical, they certainly are not

limited by lightspeed. The question is, how much faster than

light is the speed of thought in free space? It is likely

millions of times faster, and possibly billions of times

faster.

In the 1940s, aircraft were limited to the speed of sound

until they found a way through the sound barrier and were then

able to travel at supersonic speeds. One day, when our

spaceship propulsion drives are capable of accelerating ships

to lightspeed, we will find a way for them to break the light

barrier.

Then, we won’t be just looking up at the night sky any more.

We’ll be flying through it, going where no one has gone before.

*If you enjoyed today’s article, forward it to a friend!

They will appreciate your thoughtfulness.


This article was written by Owen Waters, author of

“The Shift: The Revolution in Human Consciousness”

Available in hardcover or via immediate download at:

http://www.infinitebeing.com/theshift


The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer December 18, 2009

Filed under: quote — tangent @ 9:09 pm

The Invitation

(This is the poem the book I’m reading is based on. It’s rocking my world right now.)

by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to
be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.


The Movie 2012: a way to respond November 21, 2009

Filed under: quote — tangent @ 3:27 pm

This from a friend in Massachusetts about how to reframe the story of 2012 toward a positive future based on strong communities and connectivity instead of perpetuating fear and isolation.

A movie called 2012 is about to send unhelpful images and predictions.
It’s a different level of disaster movie because it’s about a time
period just two years away. As we move toward the actual year of 2012,
it matters how we hold our visions and how we build our local
communities.

That movie could add to numbness and hopelessness, and we don’t need
more of it, but if we get other conversations going, we can hear many
voices of possibilities to bring us together and suggest how to move
forward. People are already painfully aware of social and ecological
breakdown. Strong media images can spread the destabilizing virus of
fear. That’s a virus we can do something about.

In the early 1980’s a movie about the aftermath of nuclear war called
“The Day After” was shown on TV. Knowing that this movie virus was on
its way, local meetings were organized in advance around the country
called “The Day Before” so that people could connect and change the
kind of grim isolation the movie depicted.

Weekly, here in western MA, a group of people gather to talk about
2012 as a time that is pregnant with possibility. The suggestion is,
wherever we are, that we stir up conversations about 2012, surface our
hopes and fears, and discuss the kind of 2012 we want to be part of
creating.

This is a time period when we need encouragement. I heard voices like
this in our discussion and want to pass them along.

* What if 2012 is an opening?

* What if you focus your attention on your intention to be part of a
positive force?

* What is one action that you can do right now that lines up with your
visions for making  things better?

* What kind of community future do you want to be part of?

* How can you visualize the people all over the world who send you
encouragement?

* How can we make room inside ourselves for more consciousness and new energy?

* What if there was a door that you could open at any time that gave
you daily help in living from the values you cherish most?

Let’s offer each other empowering questions and messages of grounded
hope and spread them like flower seeds.

When a seed is starting out, it doesn’t need a rock placed on top of
it. Disaster predictions are like that rock. Our lives have meaning
when we are able to plant ourselves in a larger story. What story do
we want to have holding us?


After the Heat Wave November 17, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — tangent @ 7:53 am

I’m glad for the cooler weather, even if it won’t last long.
I’m sad that my seedlings mostly have not survived. Only sunflowers and one other broccoli has managed to endure the heat and the hungry and ravenous earwigs! I won’t let this stop me, I will try again, but need to deal with the earwig problem first.
I don’t like the idea of having to kill them but it’s them or my plants!
I’d much rather grow my own spinach, broccoli, zucchini, tomatoes, lettuce, carrots… than buy them.

Another impact of the heat wave is the creek level. It’s been very low for quite a while, and some parts of the creek have become stagnant, I don’t want to watch it dry up but it’s a reality I have to face.

Wishing for rain for my garden and for the creek.


I’m here for corporate transformation October 4, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized, epiphanies — tangent @ 4:08 pm

I once was an angry greenie

I’m now a champion for corporate transformation

I see my partners in creating a new future in those making decisions about how we use earth’s resources

Making choices about how we do business today, mindful of tomorrow

You are my partners in creating a future that allows our grand children’s great grand children to enjoy life fully,

Knowing their grand children’s great grand children can also be assured a liveable and fulfilling existence on earth

Our choices today will determine the future for all life on the planet.

I don’t want to tell you what to do, how to achieve sustainability, I’m not here for that.

I’m here to broaden and deepen your perspectives so that your choices will allow for that future for life on earth.

Let’s work together, learn from eachother,

experience,

process,

participate,

facilitate,

generate…

corporate transformation.


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